In Memory

by Terence

Been wanting to post this for some time already. Clare may sometimes come across as having a tough-as-nails exterior, but deep inside, she has a heart that is bursting with love, care and compassion.


Sometime last year, my sister’s dog Sam had to be put to sleep. Clare knew that he had been sick, but I didn’t have the heart to break the news to her. Anyway, she finally found out. It was her first encounter with a death, and she naturally was quite affected by it, and even now she sometimes tells me that she misses Sam whenever she is in one of her emo moods.

I let her mourn for the dog, but tried not to make a big deal out of it, and would tell her off if she started turning into a drama queen about it. I thought that she would have to learn about death some day, and that she would eventually get over it, as with all other tragedies that we have to deal with in life. I wasn’t going to sugarcoat it with stuff like “It’s ok honey, Sam is in heaven now”. One life is all we have, and we make the best of it.

Earlier this year, out of the blue, she told me that she made a card for Sam and wanted to give it to him. It struck me that she needed closure. I suppose we all do. We all need closure after a chapter of our lives end, so that we can move on to the next. This is the purpose of funerals I suppose.

So this is Clare’s memorial for Sam. We dug a hole near where his ashes were in my mum’s backyard, and buried the card. Clare wanted to stick the rabbit head (without the ears) as a marker to remember where the card was.


She’s a super sweet kid with a heart of pure gold.